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Hold Up Wait a Minute

Hosted by Reyna and Roberto it’s a raw and unfiltered conversation about gender, sex, sexuality and navigating a heteronormative world in the young century. Subscribe on iTunes »


Hold Up Wait a Minute #15: Pride. YAWN.

With June approaching, Reyna and Roberto convene a special meeting to hate on Chicago’s Pride Parade. Ugh, so over it. Aren’t you? In this episode, our hosts cover fun and embarrassing crap that they’ve experienced at Pride–the good, the bad, and the ugly. Also, who will be cast as Reyna and Roberto in the TV movie of Hold Up Wait A Minute?  Tune in and find out!


Hold Up Wait a Minute #14: Go team!

In Chicago, everybody is a superfan, including Reyna and Roberto. We’re talking sports talk this week, folks–as it relates to gender and sexuality, of course. Questions we cover in this episode: Why are misogynistic and gay slurs used to motivate athletes? What are the differences between WNBA and NBA players when coming out? Do out players make for good role models? How about outspoken professional athlete allies? Also, is that Ultimate Fighting you’re watching or a queer fetish porn? Sometimes it’s hard to tell.


Hold Up Wait a Minute #13: Reverse Sexism?

This week, Reyna and Roberto talk about the differences between sexism and so-called “reverse sexism.” Ugh. While reverse sexism may not be real, misandry is real and we’ll give y’all that. But that’s about it. Also, what does it mean that feminism is a bad word? Speaking of words, what do microaggressions and everyday occurrences (like dudes rolling up and talking to you out of nowhere) reveal about the pervasiveness of sexism?


Hold Up Wait a Minute #12: Legalize it!

Sex sells–but just don’t sell sex! This week, Reyna and Roberto try to figure out why prostitution is illegal. How does prostitution differ from other forms of exploitation and objectification of the body? What about sex surrogates for the disabled? Do they provide therapy or sex work? Also, on the topic of needs, what about the need for accurate sex information? How do young folks get the information they need when they can’t access it online? Back in OUR day…


Hold Up Wait a Minute #11: Living Single

In these twenty action packed minutes, Reyna and Roberto discuss stigma against single people, revealing some of their own biases and fears related to marriage in the process. Is there really someone for everyone? (Um, probably not. Especially if you smell gross and are unattractive.)  What do we want and what ‘should’ we want? Some people are saving themselves for marriage–and now, even some gay dudes are waiting for marriage. Plus, Roberto describes his future husband and family. Don’t steal his baby names. Tune in!


Hold Up Wait a Minute #10: Ornamental

First, ugh, Dove soap ad crap. Over it. Then, what do images of women in magazines say about the continued objectification of women? Does anyone care? Also, a compliment is not always a compliment–like when you tell a woman to smile. Not cool. We touch on why. You know what else isn’t cool? Forcing Iranian Kurdish criminals to wear women’s clothes as punishment. In protest, a campaign of random dudes donning women’s clothes sprung up instantly. We love them.


Hold Up Wait a Minute #9: Abstinence and Prudishness

Why is everyone so scared of their own sexuality? What exactly do gay conversion therapists fix?  In the future, will “love drugs” be used to help mend broken hearts and negative relationships?  How does that differ from available therapies today?  Why do people bother teaching abstinence when it totally does not work? Questions. Questions. We have so many questions.


Hold Up Wait a Minute #8: Love me, damn it!

Is sleeping with your ex a good idea?  Are you in a polyamorous relationship and don’t even know it? Who is more sex-crazed, men or women? Why and who said so? Reyna and Roberto delve into what “normal” relationships look like by examining their own relationship patterns. And you thought you had problems!


Hold Up Wait a Minute #7: Bare

Bare-back, bare-faced, bare-ass naked! This week Reyna and Roberto discuss some of the positive attributes and criticisms of topless protesters. Also, on the agenda is the role of make-up in creating not only looks but identities. Lastly, why is barebacking and unprotected sex so big in some segments of the community?  When is unprotected sex safe sex?


Hold Up Wait A Minute #6: Progressives and Regressives

This week, Reyna and Roberto discuss laws and legislation: the Equal Rights Amendment, North Dakota’s Fetal Heart Beat bill, and a bill in Tennessee what would require teachers to send students to psychiatrists if they mention being queer.  Also, politicians who can only support marriage equality when their sons come out get no love from us.  (We guess no one else’s gay son mattered, huh, Portman?)  Why do some people feel the need to make laws to force everyone else to adhere to their personal and religious values?  Isn’t their own faith and conviction enough for them?



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